How to fix my attitude postpartum?
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Is there a reason you are breastfeeding and pumping? Do you have a pump bra and is your pump portable? You can pump while driving. It was my favorite with my first because I could multitask and save time. If you havent had a milk supply issue yet, your milk should be established to an amount now and missing a feed or pump here and there shouldn't affect it. I get where you are. I had a rocky breastfeeding journey with my first, and spent months trying build my supply. I had to religious pump or feed every 2 hrs plus give my kid formula. It was heartbreaking to go through it but I realized most of the pressure and unhappiness was coming from myself. Change your mindset a little or do some deep thinking of your goals. Write down the reason you are doing this and review it often.~~
~~I don't know if your husband said that to be supportive or if he is getting annoyed by you. If it's the first then yay you have a partner that wants to help, let him. Maybe little things like washing pump parts or setting up your pump area with snacks. If he's being annoyed tell.him to shove it and help more.
Oh girl, big hugs. That was me asf. I thought “is this my life now” lol. I’m 4 months and things have gotten SIGNIFICANTLY better the last month- mostly off the strength of me getting used to breastfeeding and mothering… I also ditched pumping completely. It ruined my life, lol. I’m just not built for it. Nobody can “help” me feed baby now but it was never much help anyways. I’ll pump here and there if I absolutely need to fucking leave. Breastfeeding is so demanding and a mind fuck… I hear stories of the girls quitting and realizing it really WAS the breastfeeding that ruined everything. Be easy on yourself. Fed IS best. But if u really want to stick it out- I hated my life and felt so guilty about until literally 3 weeks ago, now I am starting to really enjoy some things and take more time for myself. And I actually am starting to enjoy breastfeeding without pumping lol. All of it is so stressful & such a huge load and responsibility, we see u girl!😭🫶
I am on my last few days of weaning my 13 wk old and I can’t even begin to tell you what a difference it’s made. I had your exact attitude and it’s just overwhelming to be tied to a schedule and tied to home more or less and be the only person to feed ever especially overnight… if you were to quit early make sure Mr annoyed is ready to help you with bottles because if you quit and are still tasked with all the feeding, I’d be annoyed right back! Either way what you’re feeling is normal even though it sucks ❤️
I had almost exactly the same experience: is this my life??? Super depressive funk from about 2 weeks to 8 weeks in. Each day was a new breastfeeding troubleshooting journey. We were triple feeding because LO was underweight and not gaining fast enough, and it seemed that any waking moment I had was just focused on my nips. It wasn’t until about 2 months in that I was able to endure my vasospasm enough to wear the tough elastic of a pumping/nursing bra combo, and now I’m able to pump a boob and feed my baby on the other at the same time. That in itself felt like a game changer since I was able to get a couple hours off my tits by combining the feeding and pump sessions. Also now that baby has gained enough weight and head control to be worn in a baby carrier, I can get him to sleep for a period of time while I have some free hands. It’s not perfect or exactly liberated, but it does get better in stages and you slowly get more time off your chest and back into parts of your life. *Hugs*
No advice just that I feel you! My friend is coming to town next week and I want to go and meet up for brunch. I’m happy to bring the baby with me but now I’m doing mental gymnastics trying to figure out how to schedule pumping, baby feeding and sleep. 🤒 I’m tempted to just have her come over and witness the chaos that is my life and just order in bagels but how lame is that 😔 this weekend I went to Starbucks to work on a project and I had to pack my pump which wasn’t as bad as I thought but it’s just another thing to have to carry around and think about. I’ve come to realize BF is a sacrifice but it’s a temporary one. I have the same goals as you but I’m breaking them down into smaller milestones. Breastfeeding for 3 months is good, 6 months is great, 9 months awesome’ get to 12+ months that’s AMAZING.
This is my 3rd baby that I have breastfed for. It's completely hard! Over the course of all three of my breastfeeding journeys this one is hitting me hard. At this point we think bubs has a sensitivity to dairy and soy and he's fallen off his growth curve. So we have started to supplement with formula. All the milk I have stored in my freezer we can't use right now due to his sensitivity so what ever I pump now at work is getting stored. I've had to cut out dairy and soy until we figure out if that's his issue. There are days right now that I want to quit because I have to watch and check every ingredient... so this one is taking my sanity to a whole new level. Just do best for you and baby. You have the right to make those decisions. As I've been told these last few days to remember a fed baby is best whether you chose BF or FF. Happy baby! But also to be a healthy and happy mama too! You got this!
It’s okay, This is natural and isn’t an “attitude” it’s an adjustment you’re going through. You have a whole new identity, You don’t have time for what you used to, you have a lot more on your nerves now that you are protecting and caring for a baby. we’re going through a demanding time. Also hormones play a HUGE role in this. PPD, hormone drops, etc. with breast feeding. You can love this new life but still struggle embracing the challenges around losing yourself since you’re giving yourself fully to baby right now. It isn’t as easy as just “fixing” it as he may be hoping. One thing that helps me is everyday driving out for an iced tea or coffee with my baby, helps us get out just for drive. Electric pumps have also been a game changer for hands free pumping. Hang in there Mama. This is all temporary, you’re pouring everything you have into your baby give yourself so grace
There’s a book called “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne. You need to buy it, and practice it every day 🙌 There isn’t a whole lot of advice beyond you’re doing what’s best for you baby, and in some of that we lose our selfs some. As a mother of two, I can assure you most of the emotional roller coaster is hormones rebalancing and the hormones from breast feeding. Buckle down and meet your goals, you’ll have your me time back I promise. As for your husband, tell him you need his unwavering support, you’ll bounce back fully in about a year (give or take a little). Remind yourself that you’re doing the best thing for your baby, and I promise you’ll look back and be thankful ❤️🍀 best of luck mama If you need someone to talk to you can message me!