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Omg I’m sorry I don’t have any advice. But my daughter is 2 and 4 months and she is the same exact way!! With dancing also. And I just do not get it lol. This probably isn’t the best solution or one at all really. But if I say I’m sorry, I’m sorry, okay I won’t anymore. She calms down sometimes but usually I just have to let the tantrum ride out like any other or try my best to redirect her attention. I’m sure they’ll get over that whole thing eventually. I just wish I knew the cause of it.

My daughter also used to do this. She does it less now but it still sometimes happens. No idea why she does it or how to stop it tho

Let him throw his tantrums and keep singing, when my kids did this I would ask them if singing made them happy. They said yes, so I would tell them singing makes me happy too. It does not just belong to one person, and they learned after a few times being told that. And yes they were that young when I started telling them that, and understood. I didn't give their tantrums the attention they thought they would get. I would either move myself away and sing or move them to let them have their safe place

@Sookie that's were I'm at. I kept singing and my husband got worried so I stopped. it so hard because I know he loved it when when I sing but its a huge hit or miss. I'm just going to work on it I guess

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Omg my son is the same! He tells us “no singing”

@Ashley honestly, tell him next time you are going to sing. Let him know that if it's going to make him mad, he can go to his room/safe space and be mad there until he is done, or he can stay and sing with you. If he chooses to stay, let him know he doesn't get to be mad, and if he does, then he needs to be mad elsewhere. He might likely choose to be mad, and after he is done, ask if he liked being by himself, and he'll probably say no. Ask if he would have had fun singing, and he'll likely say yes. Giving him the choice lets him feel some power, but in the end, you are setting up boundaries of the situation. Explain again, he gets to pick whether he wants to be mad or would rather be happy singing but you and whoever else will be too. Those will be his only choices. At this age, toddlers want to feel in control, but they don't need that many choices.

Omg this is my daughter 😂 what we have done is whenever she tells us to stop I just act really sad, I pretend cry and I go into my room or walk to another corner of the room. Then I tell her it makes me feel really sad when she tells me to stop. Usually go through this 2-3 times before she lets me sing with her.

My son also experiences tantrums for ridiculous/silly reasons. His OT told me “he has to get through the discomfort so eventually he can get to a place where he’s comfortable” so she basically told me not to coddle him, and that it’s entirely okay that I make certain decisions even if those decisions sometimes upset him. The world isn’t going to tiptoe around him, so he has to learn that! I’d tell your child that “mommy likes to sing too, we can try singing together for today”

So I’ll admit I’m an adult that does not want to hear you sing when I’m listening to music, and I’ve been that way since I was little. One of my favorite things to do is pick out parts of songs and try to figure it out, which I can’t do if someone else is distracting me or drowning out the song. It’s possible your kid might be trying to do that as much as he’s able to at his age. What I’d suggest is trading off on songs. He picks a song, he gets to enjoy it how he wants. You can even engage him on picking out different instruments, drumming, or how a certain voice sings the song if there are multiple singers. Just try not to drown out the song itself. Then you tell him it’s your turn to pick a song and you’re going to sing to it. If he gets upset, remind him it’s your turn (but lower your expectations because taking turns isn’t going to be a strong skill right now). If he gets too upset, tell him he can go to another room nearby to calm down and he can join you when he’s done.