AITA?

So we live in a three bed semi detached which is great for me, my partner & our little one. We have our room, little one in the box room and the other room is our spare room. The only time this is used is when MIL comes to visit. Our little one is outgrowing the box room now and I want to move into the back bigger bedroom so we can put some toys etc up there rather than taking over our whole downstairs. This would mean we wouldn’t have room for MIL to stay. Am I being selfish if I do this? Partner thinks we need a spare room but my priority is our family in our own home?? Anyway just interested on people’s thoughts. Don’t have a great relationship with her, she’s rude and so negative 🙃

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How often does she come? I feel like the house needs to function more for your individual family than it does for occasional visits

she can sleep on the sofa? can a normal single bed fit in the small room? if so that’s all that is needed. put your LO into the bigger room. your child is your priority not your MIL, if shes unhappy with the space she can book herself a hotel.

Growing up we had students stay to make extra money so I would share with my brother but it was still his room or my grandmother would share my room. She doesn’t need a permanent room. You can just adapt when she stays. How often does she stay?

I think I might be misunderstanding something. Is there a reason why the box room can't be where MIL stays once you move things around?

She comes maybe 3x a year, and the box room isn’t big enough to have a bed in for her! She would never sleep on the sofa either. She expects a red carpet to be rolled out 🤣

It should absolutely be used for your son! It's his house after all! If she wants the red carpet when she visits then she can book a 5 star hotel! It's your family home and you should have it function as such

3x a year? She can get a hotel 😂

Baby gets priority imo 🤷🏻‍♀️ if she only visits 3x a year and won’t accept a sofa bed or blow up mattress you could always forward her the nearest hotel/motel/airbnb she can *pay* for?

We had similar when we had our eldest. Aged 1 she went from the box room to the bigger second bedroom and the in laws had to deal with it. If they want to come and stay over there is a premier inn down the road. My parents live 250 miles away and they accept that they stay in a hotel when they come. Our youngest baby is now in the box room but when she’s a bit older she will share with her sister. The box room still wouldn’t be big enough for 2 adults to stay in. My mum stayed over when I went to be induced she brought an air bed and camped out.

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