Are many other peoples baby’s not self soothing??

I sleep trained mine at 5 months and now he can self soothe x

My boy is just like yours, also 6 months tomorrow and also not self soothing. I either have to walk him up and down the room or he’ll fall asleep on the boob, and if I move him to the cot… he wakes up! 😵‍💫

@Sara exactly the same here!

Yes I’m my lg is she still 😔

Mine too😫

I had to stop doing this from 5 months as he was just too heavy and couldn't get comfy. The only way out was sleep training for me. Even that's not straightforward and plain sailing but when it works it's so much better. It was getting unsustainable and getting me down every single day.

Completely normal for them to not self soothe at this age. Can you try another way of soothing? If my arms are getting tired I lay on the bed with my little one and cuddle him and pat his bum and he can go to sleep like that. That might work?

@Elena would you mind sharing what sleep training method you used please? as I think I’m going to try this xx

@Haylee would you mind sharing what sleep training method you use please? as I think I’m going to try this xx

@Elena how? Did you follow a certain method?

I used the pick up put down method x

@Kerry pick up put down method x

@Elena is there a link to a video you can share ? And how long did it take your LO to settle?

@Vee if you want to message me feel free, I don’t know about a video unless there is one on YouTube! It took around 10 days for him to get the hang of it x

Will do

I have messaged you @Elena

We are struggling too! My little boy is 6 months on Friday and we still have to rock him to sleep. He will be going in his own room and cot (which doesn’t rock) after Christmas and it’s the only way he will settle. I’ve tried the pick up put down method and for a little while it worked but it’s just gone down hill again. Am I doing something wrong? X

I’m just exhausted 😩

Mine won’t often self soothe, sometimes he will if we play lullaby’s on his monitor, but not often. When he wakes in the night I just always use the boob to get him back to sleep as I don’t want him waking up the 2 year old.

Just remember, this is totally normal 🩷 babies do not have the ability to self sooth until they are much older! Sleep training isn't always the answer to natural baby behaviours 😔 my boy is 7 months and is the same, all our day naps are contact naps and I will bounce or feed to sleep at night we co sleep and he wakes a few times still. This is all perfectly normal. Sleep training will generally go against our natural instinct to soothe our little ones! I dont known if you have space but a rocking chair has been my life saver. I'm a single mum with him 100% so I totally get it's exhausting trust me! My boy is big too 😂 xx

It all depends on babies tbh, my first one is nearly 3… used to be contact napper then slowly I had to put her to nap alone. She depended on me to go to bed, it’s normal.. they need that security when transitioning to subconscious mode. I ebf her n some nights if feeding to sleep didn’t work, I would sing read n go quiet. We read, sing, talk, sometimes I communicate to her to sleep no more playing. And there is my second born 😂 feeds for food, then he is tired, he doesn’t want to feed to sleep (although some days he prefers) then put on the back, he goes to sleep 😴 on his own. I don’t do sleep train, I follow their wake windows, I make sure they have similar bed time. It’s very rare for babies to self sooth, some nights if he is awake for 3-4 hrs before bedtime, I have to pat his back/bum and sing lullaby and he sleeps. I don’t know about others but I never did and won’t do CIO. When I know my kids didn’t have gd nap, I give nice bath and massage… at night

It might be easier if you message me but I used a sleep consultant called VDHSleep and you can find her on Instagram. With all sleep training it does involve crying but I'm on the other side now and took a few days to settle in to it but my little one can now self soothe and it's made such a difference as I was so unhappy before x

My daughter doesn't really self soothe either. For her naps, if she's really tired she'll fall asleep on the bottle but sometimes I have to rock her (well I have to sit her on my lap, hug her against me and sway back and forth because she hates traditional rocking). She usually falls asleep if I stroke her eyebrows too. At bedtime she falls asleep on the bottle 99% of the time and occasionally I have to rock her