Am I bad mom for this?
So I have a two year baby girl. First time mom, single mom. I’m 38. Have never had a day away from my baby at all except for when I work and I work about 30 hrs a week. I’ve never gone out with friends, or went to a restaurant alone. Haven’t got my hair done or nails done since becoming pregnant. Everything is all about my daughter, and I’m exhausted. I’m always tired. I’m on depression meds and sleeping pills at night, I just recently was told I have adhd but I can’t tell much of a difference when I take the pills they prescribed for that and I was told I don’t have to take them everyday so I rarely take those. Anyway my question is, I sleep on my couch and my daughter sleeps in her pack and play right beside the couch, I need help setting her bedroom up suit up and we’ve just got comfortable sleeping this way. She wakes up at 7am and I’m so exhausted always, that most of the time I’ll wake up with her get her breakfast turn on cartoons and I’ll lay back down on the couch and doze in and out until about 10. I feel so guilty for this but I literally cannot keep myself awake. I just recently had my blood drawn to see if everything was okay from
How exhausted I feel always and was told everything was fine. Idk, I just feel like a bad mom.
Hey mama, first off, i just want to acknowledge that being a mother is hard, being a new mother is even harder, and being a single new mother is 100x more difficult. Youre doing what you can with what you can. We dont all come into motherhood with all the support that we need and its unfair and HARD but youre doing what you can. You need rest, baby needs rest; you need food, baby needs food. I understand the mom guilt forsure, but as long as your daughter is getting what she needs, shes in a safe home enivronment, shes fed, clothed and loved, I think youre doing fine... you mentioned that you doze in and out during that extra sleep time, which i assume means you are periodically checking on your baby to make sure shes there and safe and thats a good thing. If its in your situation, maybe reach out to a trusted family member or friend to come over and keep an eye on her for a couple hours while you rest? I know its not ideal but at least you wont have to worry about her being unattended.