@April yeah I know exactly what you mean, I hate trying to decide who needs me more when they both clearly do:( I hope it’s the same for my daughter because I’m finding it so hard🫠 oh no:( do you think it’s a jealousy thing? My son now won’t sleep through the night and hates when I leave the room for a moment so think he has a bit of separation anxiety but otherwise all seems normal(ish) well as normal as it can be when a massive change occurs lol xx
Have you tried a carrier during the day? That would probably help.
Yeah my boy doesn't like being 'on his own' for very long. I've got an almost 2 year old as well so when baby isn't napping he's usually in a wrap / carrier so i can still do stuff and be there's for my toddler
@Tanya it’s just not compatible with also having a 15 month old that also regularly wants picking up and playing on the floor etc…to them it looks like you’re always cuddling the baby, whenever my son sees me with the baby he immediately puts his arms up for a cuddle, I can’t do that with a newborn strapped to me 😕
Yes the sleep as gone down hill and he’s so needy! But he’s also started hitting and biting me and having meltdown after meltdown 😩 teeth are definitely part of the problem but there is jealousy for sure 😢
@April oh yeah good point. I went to my toddler's nursery Christmas party today and she wanted to sit on my lap but couldn't because my baby was in the carrier. She is 3 though so it's a bit easier to explain to her. You are absolutely not a failure though it is really hard!
I saw on another post that putting a hot water bottle where they sleep before putting them down to warm it up a bit worked for them and it's made such a difference for us too. I guess it replicates our body heat. Worth a try!
Oh my goodness yes! And also have a 16month old son, it’s horrible because I feel like I’m always letting one of them down 😔 my 1st was a bit like this (not this extreme) and really turned a corner at 12 weeks so to be honest I’m just counting down the days and praying this one is the same! My eldest behaviour has really gone downhill as well and I’m so gutted, he was such a happy lovely boy and I feel like the new baby has ruined everything 😭