Baby blues & hormones

Do you mean the 12th of this month, 4 days ago?xx

Awwww honestly it’s soooo hard those first few weeks. I was crying my heart out one minute and overwhelming happy the next. They’re so so little and you’re in the deep end and I remember feeling like I was out of my depth it was so difficult to adjust but I promise you that one day soon it will all just click into place. A routine will come naturally in time just try to spend this time getting to know them; what works and doesn’t work. Try to take it easy and you will get there x

I was the exact same for a couple weeks id feel really low and anxious and regret having him then feel massive amounts of guilt because i thought my son deserved better, it will get better being a mum is still hard but i have no doubts about the fact that this is what i was meant to do it took me a couple of weeks to start feeling better, it might take you a bit less or more amount of time but you will feel better your hormones have just dropped massively and your body went through something traumatic just give yourself grace and ask for help when you need it xx

This is completely normal, there is a notorious day 3 or 4 hormone drop where most women absolutely lose it- I think I cried for about 3 days straight from day 3 til day 6 and then felt a lot better. Add in lack of sleep which impacts mood, plus it sounds like you had a super long induction process! This is the biggest life changing ever and for the first month or two you can feel like youre drowning and little by little the smoke will start to clear.

@Evie yes December 12th I was induced the evening before on the 11th

@Kelly thank you for the kind words

@Millie you just had your baby recently too right? How are you feeling now?

@CeeCee yeah my baby’s father is even surprised because during the pregnancy I seemed to skate by a lot of negative experiences and symptoms. I don’t know why I thought I’d be immune to this hormonal drop, but the feelings of impending doom are so scary. I keep calling them Sunday scaries even though I’m having them everyday

Hes 2months tomorrow and honestly im tired and it is hard but its wayyyyy easier than we first came home from the hospital i feel a lot more like myself already and ive found things that help if i do ever feel low or anxious for me personally i love getting out the house with my little boy even if its just to nip to the shop that might help you or you might find something else that works for you but honestly the first couple weeks are the hardest and when they start smiling at you it gets so much easier again no matter how stressed or upset i am one little smile makes me forget it all

@Millie it’s the nights that make it so hard. Does it get easier once your baby starts to get a more predictable routine? I feel like an awful mom admitting that at really low moments at night I regret getting pregnant, but I know that it’s not true once I wake up after a couple hours of sleep. I’m literally tearing up reading your response, it gives me hope. And it’ll be so much easier once she can smile at me

Honestly my baby was always quite predictable at night but was very all over the place in the day and I did find it way easier once he settled into a daytime routine so i can imagine you will when you’re little one settles into more of a nighttime routine it only took him a few weeks which seems like ages when you’re in it but it flies by but honestly dont feel guilty for thinking you regret it occasionally i felt so awful about thinking the same thing but now im out the other side of it i honestly don’t blame myself at all just like you shouldn’t blame yourself its so hard adjusting to becoming a mum just don’t give up hope it gets so much better i couldn’t imagine my life any other way now 🤍

Like the other have said, the first few weeks are a rollercoaster of emotions. I cried so much and for no reason at all that I could think of. Go easy on yourself, you’ve just birthed a whole person, what an achievement! That’s a huge thing you’ve just been through and it’s not easy, and I promise you, you aren’t on your own with how you’re feeling right now, but I understand how lonely it can feel. Just let it all out to people you have around you. Don’t even worry yet about a routine, my baby girl is 4 months old today and we only semi established a bedtime routine about 3 weeks ago. Babies can’t have a routine this early on, it’s just not in their nature. Just go with the flow of what baby needs, your day to day routine is led by them for a little while. Just soak in those newborn days, take in the smell of your new babies, and every detail of the new little person you’ve created. Have plenty of cuddles with them and pat yourself on the back, you’re doing an amazing job 🤍