Can’t accept help with baby

Im wondering if it’s just me who feels like this or if anyone else does but I really struggle to accept help with the baby! I feel like I can’t relax when my partner/family feed/change her and even if takes her out room I can’t relax until she’s back with me! So even though I get some chances to have more sleep I can’t take them as I physically feel restless without her! I can’t be without her! What I really want is someone to look after me lol (make sure I’ve got some food and drink etc as I often go hours without eating) Am I crazy? Will this pass? I’m reading what I have wrote back thinking this makes no sense but posting anyway because I want to see if anyone can relate in some way!

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I could have written this myself! I feel so on edge but so tired now and could have taken several opportunities to nap if not for this

I am exactly the same. Even at night if my partner is holding him I insist he stays in the same room as me and it means I have more broken sleep but I don’t care. I wouldn’t even nip to the shop over the road without him and I let people hold him but I hate it 😂 My partner offers to hold him and I’m like it’s OK thanks but then when he does hold him I’m desperate to get him back. It’s totally normal as they’ve been all ours for 9 months and we haven’t had to share them and they’re still part of us and it takes some getting used to I think x

I was like this with my first too, l think because they have been a part of you for so long too it’s weird that they aren’t close. It does get better though & it’s nice to accept help and have a bit of you time! X

@Cheryl glad I’m not the only one 🤣 exactly the same I have been given and offered opportunities but can’t take them lol

@Sarah so nice to hear I’m not the only one!! I’m exactly the same! Going somewhere without them isn’t an option!! When people offer to help with baby I’m like I don’t need help with her but be nice if you could bring me a drink or food please or clean the bathrooms or do some washing please 🤣🤣 x

@Danielle agreed she is my first! I really hope that it does get better and I enjoy alone time eventually!!

I was like this with my first. My partner would try to take him downstairs in a morning so I could sleep and it lasted seconds because the stress it caused me not being in the same room as him was overwhelming. And my god if anyone else tried to comfort him when he was crying it physically hurt me. I needed to do it and deal with him (to be honest I’m still a bit like that now 😂). It is normal, you aren’t crazy and it will pass it just takes some time. But try and accept help where you can even if it means hovering whilst eating a piece of toast. It took me a while to be able to be hands off completely but until then I heavily supervised😂

@Sophie it’s reassuring I’m not the only one! It’s frustrating because I wish I could let go and take the chances of help but I just can’t! Like you said it physically hurts you seeing them being comforted by someone else 😅 god knows how I’m ever going to go anywhere without her lol

Nail on the head

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