What is everyone’s opinion on cry it out method?
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Hi there! There’s a way to sleep train and be responsive even if there’s crying versus cry it out where you’re not going in at all. There’s always going to be some crying when making changes to sleep but you can be there to calm and comfort your baby throughout the process. I have a free sleep training guide if you’re looking for a starting point! Feel free to message me!
@Cassidy okay! I’ll definitely try feeding her at the start! Does excessive whinging count at crying? I’m so worried I’ve already damaged her attachment style by letting her cry/whinge for a while until she slept! Are there any signs?😭I’ve only done it for two nights and I decided to post this as I just felt so guilty.
@Katie PM’d!! Thank you so much
I dont think CIO is good for babies and there is a lot of research to back this up but at the end of the day it’s personal choice. If you want alternatives, there’s a brilliant group on FB called The Beyond Sleep Training project which is about other ways to settle your baby and ways to cosleep if you want to, floorbeds etc. Highly recommend!
@Lesley agree with this
Seperation anxiety is huge at 8 months. There can also be medical reasons babies wake a lot. I wouldn’t leave her to cry but there’s things you can change, adding other ways to comfort her, changing nap schedule etc, getting lots of food and milk in during the day and lots of active play.
@Ayşe there’s nothing wrong with wanting your baby to sleep in their own sleep space at 8 months. There’s also nothing wrong with cosleeping if that’s what you want to do. Let’s normalize that every mom gets to decide what they want when it comes to their baby. I’m sure you didn’t mean to share this to judge or shame but many moms who are looking to sleep train feel like they’re at rock bottom and are so sleep deprived and aren’t comfortable with cosleeping. This group is a judge free zone
@Ayşe to each their own but to just say cosleeping is the norm is not very helpful for those looking for their baby to sleep independently
My 8 month old had the same problem. We started with putting her on a regular schedule and bedtime routine so that the timing and stuff was more familiar to her. We started doing her night feed at the beginning of her bedtime routine so she wasn't using that to get drowsy. Then when we put her down we let her cry 5-10 minutes before going in to try to calm her. The first few days she cried for about 5 minutes but after that it was about 30 seconds- 1 minute and then she would settle herself down and go to sleep. I brought up the attachment concern to my therapist and she told me that leaving them for a few minutes isn't going to damage their attachment style, but excessive time crying it out would.