Lazy parents.. need advice

Our baby (7 months) has his own room and we've tried to put him in there to sleep from 6 months, but he wakes up every hour. Husband works 7am to 6pm so cannot wake up at night. I am tired all day from taking care of the baby and other chores. As a result, baby sleeps in our bed, and the husband sleeps in the spare room. I understand this is not a great arrangement, and it is probably because we're lazy people and so we dont try too hard because it's easier if he sleeps with me. We've got a bedtime routine, but he still wakes every hour. Should i just stick to putting him back in his cot every time he wakes, even if its all night? If so, how long until he eventually doesnt wake in the night? What else can i do? I think right now he probably expects to be put in our bed.

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How is his day time sleep? Is the room temp ok?

Sorry for feeling this way. I’ve been co sleeping too and husband sleeps in other room. I’ll rather have some sleep and baby have some sleep than be up every hour.baby never liked his bed since birth and I’ve had to come to terms with that.

We do this too! Its the best solution for our family and means i get the most rest i can making me and my husband, better parents. Honestly if it works for you keep doing it! Our baby sleeps next to me all night and we try and pop her in her cot when she originally goes for sleep, but after the first wake up she’s held or comes into my room - so know you’re not alone and definitely not lazy!

Definitely not lazy and it's very normal infant behaviour to want to be in bed with parents. Where my husband comes from putting your baby in a cot is completely alien. I co slept with my son for 3 years and now he's sleeping with his daddy and I'm co sleeping with my May baby. I would prioritise sleep over everything 🫣 just make sure you're following safe bed sharing guidelines ❤️❤️ xxxx

Firstly, you’re not lazy! If cosleeping with your LO is how you both get a better sleep then keep doing it if you’re happy. There will be a time when you and your husband get to share a bed again but for now if cosleeping is what works for you as a family and epically for you as a mum then I don’t see the problem. I’ve coslept with my daughter since she was 8 weeks but we do always start off by putting her down in her cot at the start of the night sometimes she can last a good stretch in her own space other nights she’s in with me after 2 or 3 hours but either way we all get better sleep in my house doing it this way x

He’s probably going through a regression/leap or teething.. I would 100% keep putting him back into his own bed to make sure not to create a habit of him sleeping in your bed. What is he waking for? Do you feed him at all in the night? Does he have a dummy? Room temp? Have you tried a comforter/muslin? White noise? I’m sure all these things you have tried but just incase x

My other half has been on the floor for 5 years lol. I had my first in with me and now my second ❤️ eventually they're in their own room so make the most of it❤️

Can I ask why, you "understand this isn't a great arrangement"? If it's working for you, then surely that is a great arrangement? Cosleeping is what's natural. And it's working for you right now. Unless you aren't happy with this current set up, why change it?

How does he usually fall asleep? Mines been waking 6-12 times since 4 months I'm exhausted but I believe it's to do with sleep cycles and not being able to self settle. I feed or rock to sleep.

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