Enjoy sec with my ex more than my husbands
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@Cynthia no I haven’t been with my ex since after marriage . I’m just so worried why I’m never enjoyed seeing with my husband like I use to with my ex. I’m always avoiding sex with him
Girl stop focusing on the ex!! That might be ur problem. You can say I don’t enjoy sex with my husband and leave it there. Focus on that and look into the dynamics of your relationship that could be impacting this… when u keep comparing it to your ex then it’s a bit sus to me… that could be the root of ur problem girl.
@Zaza actually I should have said “all my Ex boyfriends” because my husband is the only one I have not enjoyed sex with. That’s even why I’m more concerned.
Ok that’s fair enough. But the way I were focusing in that one ex had me thinking 🤔
Did you have sex with your husband before marriage? If so, did you enjoy it?
Why would u marry the man if u don’t enjoy the sex?? Maybe he rich or sumting😉
Have you ever had good sex with your husband? What about when you were first dating?
@Rose yes I did but to be honest I never enjoyed it. I always thought with time I will . I don’t get aroused by him no matter the effort he puts in
@Monika lol 😂 funny enough I make more than him. I married him cos he was kind then
@Neena no I haven’t. To be fair he has more energy , stamina etc but I’m never sexually attracted to him
Have you tried seeing a sex therapist together? If sex feels like a chore to you, it sounds like you’re bored? Have you tried showing your husband what you like?
@Neena no we haven’t. I’ve showed him staff he does some to please me . I’m thinking maybe this is because I don’t find him sexually attractive.
If you don’t find him sexually attractive Incog, sorry to say but I don’t think that will miraculously change. It’s the same once you get the ick, no matter how irrational, you can’t get past it. If I were in your shoes I would try the sex therapist to see if anything could change, if not time to make plans to divorce because obviously you aren’t sexually compatible and unless you want to be sexually frustrated for the rest of your life, you two would be better off finding someone who you are sexually compatible with. Also Incog if you aren’t enjoying sex with someone, say something at the time! Don’t marry them 🤣
@Neena thank you. I completely agree with you. Shouldn’t have married him cos I got frustrated and sexually unhappy . He would be shocked 😳 if I bring sex therapy up because I have been pretending to enjoy it all lol. I just thought divorcing for this reason isn’t enough but I may consider it someday. Thanks dear I appreciate your input 🙏🏻
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Maybe your husband just isnt doing things you like. Not all men know what they’re doing
@sarah thank you. Truly he has never been consistent with what I like in bed
enjoyed? if still enjoying maybe that's the root of the problem 🤔