Community Posts, Tips & Support on Postpartum Care

I had a little girl in 2021. This year I had a baby boy and it feels so different. I feel much more protective of him. I think about his future and how I wont be his number 1 girl and I get this gutted feeling in my stomach. But I also know I don't want to be like my MIL that is so dependant on my husband. With my d...

So last night during his last breastfeed before bed, I got this uncontrollable sense of dread. That if I put my baby down to bed, that it would be the last. I mentally, emotionally and physically could not let go of my child due to this sudden anxiety and fear. Let me be very clear, his room and crib are safe. I a...

Today my one and only child is 6 months old. I’m so sad but I can’t help but regret what I did the day he was born. There wasn’t that instant in love feeling/motherly instinct. Back story I was in labor for 4 days and wasn’t dilating, the hospital wouldn’t induce me until 39w1d. I was unable to sleep, eat and having...

I am very open about the struggles of motherhood however I’ve found that new mums around me are just not being honest about how it really is or maybe they are blind to it? I met up with a friend who has a 14 month old, each time I text her about my struggles she responds with only her positive experiences, which usu...

My nearly 4 year old is changing so much, she has always been super sweet and well behaved and now she’s like a different child. She is getting very jealous of her 1 year old sibling and I just feel like I’m completely failing 😭 I try to give her as much attention as I possibly can but it’s really hard when I’m…

Anyone that’s had a episiotomy, it’s been 4+ weeks since I’ve given birth and I still have such an ache and pain down there. When does this go away? Google says it should be healed within 3/4 weeks but I still don’t feel right down there

Hi, has anyone developed an umbilical hernia during pregnancy? I’m due to have it operated on, but do you think I’m best to wait until after we have a second baby (if we do have another I’m not sure yet) I Wonder what the chances of me getting another hernia are if I do get it operated on…

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Hey ladies, the stitches at one end of my episiotomy cut have loosened and the 2 sides of the cut have separated at that end. I've had the midwife examine it, and she's not concerned, just told me the 2 sides will come back together as the cut heals... but will they? What if it heals weird? Has this happened to anyo...

Almost 35 weeks. I’ve been told baby is back to back. Does anyone have this? Or did have in previous pregnancy? If previous pregnancy - did baby turn easily before/ in labour. The NCT site seems to suggest it can lead to a longer labour, more painful and higher chance of assisted delivery/ c section if they are b...

I’m feeling so exhausted and depleted. Currently 35 weeks pregnant with my second and I’m just beyond exhausted. I’m still working full time as this economy is not allowing me to take time off earlier. My son who is 21 months is super clingy to me and only wants me to do anything and everything for him ( I love th...

I’m 39 weeks running after a toddler. I don’t have the capacity or patience to be the normal bubbly/helpful person people are used too. I feel like everyone around me is expecting me to be normal and ‘carry on’ because it’s my second pregnancy. If anything, it’s harder this time around. I’m literally falling apa...

Hey guys kinda need some support my daughter was due august she was born April at 24 weeks 6 days gestation she was in nicu for 125 days she was discharged on August 26th this year and so far I’m struggling to fit in ,my baby is the same age as my friends ( corrected age) but I just don’t feel like a mum 😖 hearing…

I have a 14 mo old and a 6 week old. My newborn is sooo much fussier than my first ever was. If she isn’t sleeping or eating, she’s crying. I can’t put her down for longer than 5, MAYBE 10 min, without her crying. (She was 10 days early - not sure if this makes a difference beause my first one was cooked well done ...

what was everyone’s first time having sex like? i’m 9 weeks postpartum and i really want to but im so nervous.

since having my baby girl via emergency c section after 24 hours of labour. the first week of recovery (last week) was really hard for me. physically i was in pain and couldn’t move without crying, but also mentally as i was mourning the birth i imagined. anyway, i don’t trust my mil. just down to how she treated ...

What positions are y’all having sex in? I’ve been struggling to find something comfortable yet still intimate with my husband. Also, anyone else’s spouse having a hard time getting interested with the belly in the way? I know my husband loves me, but I also know the belly creeps him out. Anyway I can help him see p...

Has anyone experienced heightened ppd/ppa when your partner is out of town and you feel alone….even though you had help? My in laws don’t know about my depression and anxiety & I’m rarely alone with my baby since it increases my symptoms of PPD/PPA. It’s been a rough 5 nights for me!!! I thought my depression an...

I just found out my husband cheating on me..I feel like shit literally I’m shaking I feel sick to my stomach..Yall this feeling is horrible I’m in so much pain and I feel anger…my intuition was telling me something was happening but it wasn’t until yesterday he got caught up…. I need some support 💔😭

I keep losing my temper in front of my baby (sometimes directed at her, sometimes directed at others in the household). How do you handle this? I feel guilty thinking I may be traumatizing my child being so easily angered all the time.😞 It’s similar to how irritable I get when I’m close to/on my period, but now…